A lot of learning and performance improvement fails not for lack of logic or reason but for lack of heart.
When I think about my motivation for my daily meditation practice, I don’t think coldly and logically about what I would like to achieve through training the mind. No, I dig deep within myself for a feeling that makes my skin tingle. I think about how meditating will help me be more present for my daughter, have greater access to my creativity and so help me to help others through my work. I connect to these deep, powerful, feelings based motivations and I find that I am moved to practice diligently.
Too often we pass over this part of training as a tick-box exercise. What do I want from today? Meet people. Learn about leadership. Get better at negotiation. Are these the kinds of motivations that make your skin tingle? Doubtful.
But what if we change them a little:
I have a crippling fear of being rejected. I want to overcome that fear and gain confidence so I can bring my talents to the people who need me.
I’m always stressed about my quarterly appraisal. I never want to feel that anxiety again. I want to always enter that room feeling powerful.
I’m worried that I could be doing more with my life. I want to learn the skills I need so I explore what’s possible and when I die I can say I left it all on the field.
How about those motivations? Any tingles?
If you’re trying to begin a learning and performance practice and finding you’re not getting the momentum you need, there’s a very good chance you haven’t fully connected with the emotional core of your motivation. That’s something I would encourage you to spend more time on. Find that thing that sends electricity through you and realise that this is why you’re trying to learn and grow, this is why you want to have control of your performance profile – so you can have what matters to you.